The absent lover (PART 10) – Checkmate

To read all posts in this series, click HERE. HAPPY NEW 2024 YEAR!! When I was younger I had this scary monster image of what I was sure the devil looked like, I mean he had to be ugly and menacing to do the horror things he did, right? As I grew up, I became …

The absent lover (PART 9) ­– The great adventure

To read all posts in this series, click HERE. I had one annoyingly stupid crying meltdown just before I wrote this (not today, like last week). It wasn’t pretty, my eyes and head still hurt, I just want to curl up under my duvet and not come out……but I have responsibilities sooooooo, we move. This …

Musing on 04/01/23

Happy New Year! 2022 went by like a flash, I can’t believe I didn’t post anything here, please forgive me. Congratulations are in order please, you can no longer address me as just Toritseju - do you know who I am and what I have done??? Loool I am just joking please. I am so …

I have a response – Q&A (PART 2)

These Q&A style posts have actually been more difficult than I thought because I really do not like to generalise or even assume that how things worked for person A is how they will work for the next person even when they followed the same steps. Having stated this however, I do greatly appreciate learning …

The absent lover (PART 8) – The ‘somehowness’ of it all

To read all posts in this series, click HERE. Oladapo Akindele Olaitan I honestly cannot believe you were not physically present on my 40th birthday!!! Are you even serious right now?! Like HOW?? Is this how it was meant to be? After all your wooing and perfection as a husband. After all the things we …

I have a response – Q&A (PART 1)

Hello lovely people, How is your day going? This is a new series - sort of like a Q&A style post. I thought it would be a good idea because people have mentioned not knowing what to do or say in such situations and have asked me specific questions about it. So, here's what we …

The not so freshly bereaved – how I am dealing (PART 6)

To read previous posts in this series, click HERE. Time - the Hazy Maze I have updated the title of the freshly bereaved posts because apparently I can no longer categorise myself as freshly bereaved - it has been 4 years! The last post in this series was my eleventh wedding anniversary which was a …

The absent lover (PART 7) – The only constant

To read all posts in this series, click HERE. Hello everyone! Welcome to 2020! Does anyone else feel like 2019 was an extremely long year....I think it had extra months. It went by so fast but it was still so long - I don't even know if I am making any sense right now. I …

The absent lover (PART 6) – The quickest quick sand

To read all posts in this series, click HERE. Hey friend!!! Where have you been?? Emm no Toritseju, I believe the question should be ‘Where have YOU been?’ This losing a spouse thing is not a joke at all. It’s like a force is constantly determined to pull you back into a nasty spiral of …